"All in their time," they say. There are girls who start their sexual activity at the age of 11 and girls who start at 24 or later. It's obvious that for the first one it's too early and for the rest you think, "Why did they expect that?" However, giving a good age is impossible. Every girl develops both physically and mentally differently. After reading the next lines you will understand better.
Why not too early?
Genital organs are formed during intrauterine life. They are virtually inactive in childhood and are therefore very poorly developed. The purpose of puberty is to prepare them for their smooth functioning.
The primary function of the genitals is to bring children to the world. But psychologists say sexual enjoyment is just as important, and we often seek it without wanting offspring. Just for the sake of pleasure.
But even in order to gain pleasure, the sexual organs need to reach a certain degree of development. In addition, sexual activity affects you emotionally in a positive or negative way. Maybe you're ready, maybe not, maybe you really want it, or you may want to wait until you're sure it's time.
The beginning of sexual life before the genital organs mature, especially the vagina, may be the cause of sexual dysfunction. These are difficulties in the normal functioning of the genitals. They give physical and mental suffering instead of bringing pleasure. Let's see what these are:
Lubrication disorders that consist of insufficient secretion of mucus by the vaginal glands. This mucus has the role of facilitating penetration. Without it, pain can come to contact.
Dyspareunia is vaginal or abdominal pain occurring at sexual intercourse. It occurs as I was saying due to lubrication disorders but also due to insufficient development of the vagina.
Anorgasmia or the inability to have orgasm appears for the same reasons: insufficient development of the vagina, insufficient clitoral development, insufficient lubrication and dyspareunia.
All these disorders may also occur because you are not mentally, emotionally prepared for sexual intercourse.
Still, why not wait too long?
Generally, girls who did not have sex until 23-25 years of age are becoming more timid. I find an increasingly difficult relationship. They feel left behind by other women, and that complicates them and accentuates their timidity.
So, what's the right time for you? You will know best. But be careful: you have to be physically and mentally prepared, have the necessary knowledge (how to guard against the problems that may arise).
Reasons not to have sex
Many girls start their sexual activity for the wrong reasons and then regret it. Maybe many of you want to get rid of virginity as soon as possible. I'm wodering why?
"Other girls have already had sex. They are already women. They have an air of superiority and even laugh at me that they are still virgins. " Your friends' decision to have sex does not have to influence yours. You have enough time. You are different people. Everyone with her life and experiences.
Your friend may say, "If you do not have sex with me, it means you do not love me"; "I love you, have sex with me, show me that you love me too"; "If you do not have sex with me, I'm leaving you" Who is trying to blackmail you in this way is not worth it. Sex is important in a relationship but not by sex you hold someone near you. If she does not love you, she'll leave you anyway after having sex.
The beginning of sexual life is not an emergency, though sometimes it seems to us. If you want to do it, it's good to be because you feel mature enough for that and not because of the pressure of others. Do not let others choose for you. It must be your decision and your desire.
The first sexual act
It's very important where, with whom, under what conditions you lose your virginity. The first sexual act can mark your life if it's an accident. Be careful, a cute guy is not necessarily attentive to your needs or the way you expect it.
You need to know that a pregnancy can occur after first sexual intercourse. Likewise, sexually transmitted diseases, which are very widespread, can be contacted after a single sexual intercourse. After all, your interest is first to be healthy and to have the delight of making the right choices. You're the best friend of yours!
